Key to Success

Positive thinking brings inner peace, success, improved relationships, better health, happiness and satisfaction. It also helps the daily affairs of life move more smoothly, and makes life look bright and promising.

Positive thinking is contagious. People around you pick your mental moods and are affected accordingly. Think about happiness, good health and success, and you will cause people to like you and desire to help you, because they enjoy the vibrations that a positive mind emits.

In order to make positive thinking yield results, you need to develop a positive attitude toward life, expect a successful outcome of whatever you do, but also take any necessary actions to ensure your success.

Effective positive thinking that brings results is much more than just repeating a few positive words, or telling yourself that everything is going to be all right. It has to be your predominant mental attitude. It is not enough to think positively for a few moments, and then letting fears and lack of belief enter your mind. Some effort and inner work are necessary.
Are you willing to make a real inner change?
Are you willing to change the way you think?
Are you willing to develop a mental power that can positively affect you, your environment and the people around you?

Here are a few actions and tips to help you develop the power of positive thinking:

Always use only positive words while thinking and while talking. Use words such as, 'I can', 'I am able', 'it is possible', 'it can be done', etc.

Allow into your awareness only feelings of happiness, strength and success.

Try to disregard and ignore negative thoughts. Refuse to think such thoughts, and substitute them with constructive happy thoughts.

In your conversation use words that evoke feelings and mental images of strength, happiness and success.

Before starting with any plan or action, visualize clearly in your mind its successful outcome. If you visualize with concentration and faith, you will be amazed at the results.

Read at least one page of inspiring book every day.

Watch movies that make you feel happy.

Minimize the time you listen to the news and read the papers.

Associate yourself with people who think positively.

Always sit and walk with your back straight. This will strengthen your confidence and inner strength.

Walk, swim or engage in some other physical activity. This helps to develop a more positive attitude.

Think positive and expect only favorable results and situations, even if your current circumstances are not as you wish them to be. In time, your mental attitude will affect your life and circumstances and change them accordingly.

Follow the tips and suggestions in this article, and prove to yourself the reality the power of positive thinking. More advanced and powerful techniques, instructions and exercises can be found in the following books: http://www.successconsciousness.com/...
hopefully can help...insyaallah :)

Remaja Islam

remaja islam berdasarkn pndangan saya ialah remaja yang taat perintah Allah,sentiasa berusaha memperbaiki diri dan BERMUJAHADAH melawan nafsu dan godaan yang hebat.Kini kita melihat bagaimana gejala sosial yang berleluasa telah meratah iman remaja2 islam kini.mereka terhanyut dengan gelombang maksiat yang begitu hebat lantas lemas dalam perkara tersebut.Sememangnya diakui,menjadi remaja Islam yang betul2 thabat (konsisten) dengan ajaran Islam di zaman moden yang serba canggih dan menduga iman ini sangatlah susah seandainya tidak menghadirkan hati dan niat yang ikhlas kerana Allah.

Kalau nk dilihat zaman kegemilangan Islam dahulu,tenaga pemudalah antara yang amat diperlukan.Contohnya seperti saidina Ali,beliau sanggup menggantikn tmpat tidur Rasulullah sewaktu baginda keluar berhijrah.Usamah bin zayd yang menjadi panglima perang seawal usia yang begitu muda,19 tahun dan sultan muhammad al-fateh yang berjaya menakluki kota konstantinople,sebagaimana yang pernah dijanjikan oleh rasulullah akan pembukaan kota tersebut(konstantinople)

so,bagaimana nak menjadi pemuda Islam@remaja Islam?
jom sama2 kita amalkan garis panduan yang disediakan oleh as-syahid imam hassan al-banna

10 PERIBADI MUSLIM

1.aqidah yg sejaHtera
2.ibadah yg s0hEh
3.akhlak yg mantap
4.luas ilmu pengeTahuan
5.sihaT tubUh badan
6.bermAnfaaT kpd org laIn
7.terSusun urusannYa
8.mujaHadah meLawan nafSu
9.menePati waKtu
10.mamPu berd1kaRi

waLLAHU a'lam
yang silap harap ditegur..

Untungnya menjadi wanita

Wanita solehah adalah seindah hiasan duniawi dan uhkrawi

Seorang wanita solehah adalah lebih baik daripada 70 orang wali, seorang wanita solehah adalah lebih baik daripada 70 lelaki soleh, seorang wanita yang jahat adalah lebih buruk daripada 1,000 lelaki yang jahat, 2 rakaat solat dari wanita yang hamil adalah lebih baik daripada 80 rakaat solat wanita yang tidak hamil, wanita yang memberi minum susu dada kepada anaknya akan dapat satu pahala daripada tiap-tiap titik susu yang diberikannya. Wanita yang melayan dengan baik suami yang pulang ke rumah dalam keadaan letih akan mendapat pahala jihad.

Wanita yang habiskan malamnya dengan tidur yang tidak selesa kerana menjaga anaknya yang sakit akan mendapat pahala seperti membebaskan 20 orang hamba. Wanita yang melihat suaminya dengan kasih sayang dan suami yang melihat isterinya dengan kasih sayang akan dipandang Allah dengan penuh rahmat. Wanita yang menyebabkan suaminya keluar dan berjuang ke jalan Allah dan kemudian menjaga adab rumahtangganya akan masuk syurga 500 tahun lebih awal daripada suaminya, akan menjadi ketua 70,000 malaikat dan bidadari dan wanita itu akan dimandikan di dalam syurga, dan menunggu suaminya dengan menunggang kuda yang dibuat daripada yakut.

Wanita yang tidak cukup tidur pada malam hari kerana menjaga anak yang sakit akan diampunkan oleh Allah akan seluruh dosanya dan bila dia hiburkan hati anaknya Allah memberi 12 tahun pahala ibadat. Wanita yang memerah susu binatang dengan "bismillah" akan didoakan oleh binatang itu dengan doa keberkatan. Wanita yang menguli tepung gandum dengan "bismillah", Allah akan berkatkan rezekinya. Wanita yang menyapu lantai dengan berzikir akan mendapat pahala seperti meyapu lantai di baitullah.

Apabila seorang perempuan mendirikan solat lima waktu, berpuasa sebulan (Ramadhan), menjaga kehormatan dan taat kepada suami, dia akan disuruh memasuki syurga melalui mana-mana pintu yang dia sukai.

Wanita yang hamil akan dapat pahala berpuasa pada siang hari. Wanita yang hamil akan dapat pahala beribadat pada malam hari. Wanita yang bersalin akan mendapat pahala 70 tahun solat dan puasa dan setiap kesakitan pada satu uratnya Allah mengurniakan satu pahala haji. Sekiranya wanita mati dalam masa 40 hari selepas bersalin, dia akan dikira sebagai mati syahid. Jika wanita melayan suami tanpa khianat akan mendapat pahala 12 tahun solat. Jika wanita menyusui anaknya sampai cukup tempoh (2 tahun), maka malaikat-malaikat di langit akan khabarkan berita bahawa syurga wajib baginya. Jika wanita memberi susu dadanya kepada anaknya yang menangis, Allah akan memberi pahala satu tahun solat dan puasa.

Jika wanita memicit suami tanpa disuruh akan mendapat pahala 7 tola emas dan jika wanita memicit suami bila disuruh akan mendapat pahala 7 tola perak. Wanita yang meninggal dunia dengan keredhaan suaminya akan memasuki syurga. Jika suami mengajarkan isterinya satu masalah akan mendapat pahala 80 tahun ibadat. Semua orang akan dipanggil untuk melihat wajah Allah di akhirat, tetapi Allah akan datang sendiri kepada wanita yang memberati auratnya iaitu memakai purdah di dunia ini dengan istiqamah.

Praise is to Allah the Merciful, and the Compassionate.

Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem

Praise is to Allah the Merciful, and the Compassionate. I bear witness that there is only one God and I bear witness that Muhammad is His Prophet. Peace and blessing upon him, his family and companions. We bear witness that he fulfilled his mission and delivered his trust and made the path of surrender clear to us.

In the Quran it says,

“ Among people there are those who take others as equal besides Allah. They love them as they would love Allah. But those who have faith love Allah more than anything else. ”

You remember in the first part of this Khutba that the Prophet (puh) told the man who came to him, “ You are with those you love. ” The Prophet wasn ' t just being nice to this man, he was teaching him and us something very important. He was making clear that love is the ultimate test of our worthiness as human beings. And he was giving us a way to understand about our own love. To know what it is that we really love.

We are with what we love. Whatever we love is what is closest to us. What is most often thought of and remembered by us, what is most sought by us, that ' s what we love. So, what is it that we remember the most? What occupies our attention the most? What do we wish for the most? Let us be honest with ourselves, do we think of Allah most of the time? Or are we thinking of other things most of the time. Where is our attention? Is it on God or is it on the countless other things that occupy us and distract us from our real purpose?

If we can examine ourselves honestly and know what we love then we have taken a major step forward. If we find that what we love is Allah then we are blessed with a great gift for which all praise is due to Allah. But if what we love is other than Allah, then at least we know and we have the opportunity to seek to change what is in our hearts.

A reliable test of how true our love is for Allah is to see how much we are able to serve others and to give of ourselves generously and openly for Allah ' s sake. This is one of the most important truths: The quality of our faith is reflected in our intention, attitudes, and behavior.

How do we do this? How do we clear our hearts of our love and attachment for all these things that are other than Allah? How do we get rid of our pre-occupation with all the other captivating distractions that compete for our attention? How do we become among those who “… love Allah more than anything else ” ? We can find the answer in the Quran and the way of our Prophet (puh) and it is the remembrance of God because it is in the constant remembrance of God that our hearts can find stillness and intimacy can develop. As we are guided in the Quran:

“… It is through remembrance of God that hearts find rest ”

In the Quran Allah promises us,

“ Remember Me, I shall remember you. ”

Our remembrance of Allah is His remembrance of us. Our call to Him is His answer to us. Remembrance is the way of intimacy with Allah.

In a Sacred Tradition, Allah says, “ I am as my worshipper thinks I am. I am with him when he remembers Me … if he seeks closeness to Me by as little as an inch, I come closer to him by a yard. And if he seeks closeness to Me by a yard, I come closer to him by a mile. And if he comes to Me walking, I come to him running. ”

In another Sacred Tradition Allah says, “ My worshipper can get close to me with nothing better than what I have made obligatory. And as he continues to get closer with selfless acts of giving I love him. And when I love him, I become his hearing, his sight, his hands, and his feet. And whatever he asks of Me, I shall give him and whatever aid he seeks of Me, I shall aid him …”

So, Allah ' s grace multiplies with our sincere efforts and honest intention to come closer to Him. Whatever we give to Him comes back manifold to us. In this way, little by little, our love for Allah grows and develops and it transforms us into loving, noble human beings.

We get close to Allah by serving Him, by being for His sake, by learning to make our intentions purely for Him, by learning to become a little less selfish and a lot more giving.

The Prophet (puh) once told his dear companion, Muazh Ibn Jabal, “ Muazh, I do love you! ” Muazh replied, “ And I love you, Messenger of Allah, more dearly than my own father and mother! ” The Prophet then instructed Muazh, “ Do not end a prayer without asking Allah to help you remember Him, to be thankful to Him, and to serve Him in the best of ways. ”

As we continue to live our lives in remembrance of Allah our capacity for love will grow, our hearts will expand and we will reach our full human potential inshallah.

The intimacy and love that develops in us with our remembrance and other selfless acts of service is a mystery and a wonder.

Allah says in a Sacred Tradition, “ I have prepared for my righteous servants what no eye has seen, nor ear has heard, nor been imagined by any human heart …”

May Allah bless us with His merciful guidance to His straight path. May He bless us with His love. Allah we seek refuge in You from hearts that are not humble, and egos that are never satisfied, and eyes that do not weep, and prayers that are not answered, and works that are not elevated.

Allah, bless us with wholesome hearts, grateful tongues, and obedient bodies. Do not let us forget You. Do not deny us loving You. Allah, preserve us and protect us. Be merciful with us. Increase our blessings and support us. O You who has ability over all things.

Allah, bless Your beloved servant, and the light of our hearts, our master and friend Muhammad, the noble and pure Prophet and bless his family, companions, and followers. May we become his companions in this world and in the other world, and peace be upon you and Allah ' s mercy and blessings.

Rise to prayer that Allah may have mercy on us all.

love in Islam

Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem

Praise be to Allah. We bear witness that there is only one god who has no partners beside Him, and we bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and messenger.

Praise be to Allah who blessed us with the guidance of His prophets and messengers. Praise be to Allah whose Mercy encompasses everything. Praise be to Allah who knows our needs and answers our calls and brings peace to our hearts.

Praise be to Allah who breathed into us of His Spirit and placed the light of His guidance in our inmost being. Whomever Allah guides, no one can misguide, and whomever Allah misguides, no one can guide. We put our trust in Allah and seek His forgiveness, aid, and support.

A man once came to the Prophet (puh) and asked him about the hereafter. The Prophet asked him, “ And what have you prepared for that time? ” The man replied, “ Nothing, except that I love Allah and I love you. ” The Prophet (puh) answered him, “ You are with the ones you love. ”

Dear brothers and sisters, the guidance of Islam is the guidance of love. The innate, natural and ancient religion that is Islam is the religion of love. The Prophet (puh) came to guide us to love and to make clear the love that is at the core of all religion. Our purpose as human beings is to consciously manifest Allah ' s love in our lives. This is the most significant meaning of Khilafa and Ibada that can bring purpose to us and transform our lives. When we reflect upon the history of the Prophet (puh) and the spread of his message we will realize that Islam could not have taken root in the world without the love that filled the heart of the Prophet and was clearly manifest in his way of relating and interacting with people that brought out their own deep and profound love for him. Without this mutual and abiding love, none of us would be here today. Without this love Islam would not have been possible.

Today, it seems that we too often hear and read much that is harsh and heartless about Islam and not enough that is loving and beautiful. There seems to be too many messages of prejudice, literalism, legalism, violence, and oppression. The superficiality, ugliness and darkness that is too prevalent in today ' s Islamic discourse is nothing like what the Prophet brought us.

I would like to share with you part of the first sermon ever given by the Prophet (puh) in Medina. This is what he had to say to his companions,

“ Verily, the best discourse is the Book of Allah. One is truly successful whose heart Allah has adorned with the love of His Book, and whom, after living in denial, Allah has caused to enter into submission to Him, and caused him to prefer His Book above any human discourse. The Book of Allah is the most beautiful and eloquent of discourses.

Love that which Allah loves! Love Allah with all your hearts! Grow not weary of hearing the Word of Allah. Do not stop remembering Him. Do not let your hearts grow hard toward Him. For verily, Allah has preferred His Book above all of Creation. Indeed, Allah has endowed it with guidance to the best of deeds, and made it an example for the elect of His servants, and filled it with righteous discourse, and has made clear in it what is lawful and unlawful for you.

So, serve Allah alone, and associate with Him no other. Be ever conscious of Him. Be truthful to Allah in what you utter from your mouths. Let the Spirit of Allah be the source of love between you. ”

Can you hear the love in his words? Can you hear his urgent call to our hearts? Can you sense the profound purpose in his teaching?

Love is so central to Islam that without it there can be no real faith. The Quran tells us clearly what following the Prophet is about,

“ Say, if you love Allah, then follow me and Allah will love you greatly and forgive your sins for Allah is forgiving and merciful …”

And even more decisively it says to the people of faith that,

“ O you who have faith whoever among you turns back from his religion Allah will surely bring forth a people He loves and who love Him who are humble before the faithful and exalted before the deniers. They strive in the way of Allah and fear no blame from any blamers. This is the favor of Allah, He bestows it on whomever He wills. For Allah is all-encompassing, all-knowing! ”

In these two tremendous verses we can understand some remarkable things. We can understand that faith and faithfulness are defined as love between God and the people of faith. A Mu ' min is one who is deeply and profoundly in love with God. It is this love that motivates us to strive, to seek, to turn back to Allah, to give up our worldly attachments and return to our Rabb. It is this love that gives us the power and strength to face the various trials of our faith throughout our lives. It is this love that teaches us humility, compassion, trust, obedience and honesty. It is this love that enables us to sacrifice, to give of ourselves and of our possessions for the sake of God. It is this love that opens us to submission, to Islam. We can also understand that this relationship of love is a special, precious gift bestowed by God upon us. Without His will and generosity we would be heedless of His love in our hearts. We can also understand that the abandoning of religion in the context of this Ayah is to turn away from love because the consequence of this abandonment is that God promises to replace us with people who have this relationship of love with Him. And we can understand that the way to God ' s love is to follow the Prophet (puh), to be in his footsteps, to strive to be like him and in this striving our love is made greater and greater by God.

In a Sacred Tradition Allah says,

“ I was a hidden treasure and I loved to be known so I created heaven and earth that I may be known. ”

One of Allah ' s names, one of His attributes, is Al Wajid. This word has several meanings among them is to bring into existence. It also has the meaning of intense, existential love. Reflecting upon this divine name, we can see that there is a relationship between love and creation. And reflecting upon the sacred tradition we can see that God ' s love to be known is the primary reason for creation. In this way we can come to a truly profound insight; Allah ' s love is the very cause of existence. We are alive today because of His love, the whole Universe is here because of His love.

The relationship of love between us and Allah, between us and others, and between us and all of creation is essential to reaching our full potential as human beings. When we nourish our hearts with love, when we manifest Allah ' s love in our lives; with our families, with our friends, in our work, in our prayers, in everything that we do, the entire meaning of life changes for us and our own experience of our humanness is transformed; we become adorned with the beautiful characteristics of the Prophet.

This is the meaning of following in the footsteps of the Prophet (puh); we follow him by adorning ourselves with the qualities of his noble character. We follow him by striving to become like him in our humanness, in our quality of relationships, in our conduct in society, in our service to humanity.

The noble character of the Prophet (puh) has been best explained by his cousin, Jaffar Ibn Abu Talib, when he was asked by the King of Abbysinia to explain his religion. Jaffar replied:

“ We were a people lost in ignorance. We worshipped idols, we back-stabbed one another in gossip, we committed sins without shame, we severed the bonds of mercy among us, and we were unkind neighbors. The strong among us devoured the weak. Thus we were until Allah sent to us a messenger from among ourselves, well-known to us in his nobility, honesty, trustworthiness, and tenderness. He called us to unity and to devoting our worship to Allah alone and to removing the idols from our hearts. He commanded us to be truthful when we spoke, and to fulfill our trust, and to preserve the bonds of mercy among us, and to be kind neighbors, and to desist from violating what is sacred. He called us to turn back from our sins, and from falsehood, and from devouring the wealth of orphans, and from defaming honorable women. So we believed in him and in his message and we followed what he received from his Lord. ”

Brothers and sisters, the Sunnah of the Prophet is about the kind of character that manifests God ' s love in existence. His Sunnah is that which ennobles us, that which transforms us into better human beings. It ' s about becoming kind and tender human beings who are deeply and profoundly in love with God.

The Prophet's love, awe, and longing for Allah comes through with overwhelming clarity when we reflect upon his prayers. Here is just one example:

"O my God make me love You, make me love those who love You, make me love all things that bring me closer to loving You. O my God, make me love You, and Your angels, and Your prophets, and all of Your creation. O my God, make my love for You dearer to me than myself, and my family, and my wealth, and my children, and from cool, pure water to the thirsty."

May Allah bless us with His love, and the love of those who love Him. May Allah fill our hearts with love. Allah bless Prophet Muhammad, his family, and companions. Peace be with you and Allah ' s mercy.

Di lema Melayu-Islam

Pertembungan “Islam-Melayu dan Melayu-Islam” mutakhir ini lebih dibauri dan dikaburi oleh “presenting problems” berbanding “the real problems”. Mungkin ini disebabkan wujudnya ramai golongan yang berkepentingan sama ada dalam parti, pertubuhan dan perkumpulan orang-orang Melayu. Golongan “opportunists” Melayu ini berselindung di sebalik perjuangan agama atau bangsa untuk terus mendapat “ke¬untungan” jika Melayu-Islam terus berkrisis. Dan kemungkinan ini juga di¬sebab¬kan wujudnya golongan fanatik agama atau chauvinis bangsa yang sudah lebur sifat rasional, kasih sayang dan adab susilanya dalam menghadapi perbezaan pendapat. Sesungguhnya, semua perkara yang disebutkan di atas akan menjadi teras penulisan dalam tajuk-tajuk berikutnya. Pada tajuk-tajuk yang lebih khusus itu, saya akan memperincikan apa yang disentuh secara sepintas lalu dalam mukadimah ini. Apa yang pasti ialah buku ini mengetengahkan satu pola pemikiran yang konsisten walaupun pada subjek dan isu yang pelbagai. Dan pemikiran ini dihidangkan secara mudah walaupun gagasan¬nya besar dan adakalanya agak ilmiah.

Kritikan, teguran, pujian atau sekadar pandangan dalam buku ini mengundang respon yang sama terhadap saya. Oleh itu, saya dengan hati terbuka menerimanya. Kita tidak boleh taksub ketika menegur ketaksuban orang lain. Justeru, panda¬ngan yang saya kemukakan nanti adalah lahir dari hati yang penuh sedar bahawa pasti ada pandangan lain yang lebih tepat.

Soal kepimpinan dan politik akan menjadi pendahulu bicara saya. Diikuti oleh soal pendidikan, kemudian disusuli oleh isu-isu yang berlaku dalam negara dan akhirnya menjengah kepada persoalan antarabangsa. Sesungguhnya jika kepimpinan telah betul dan mantap, maka agenda mendidik umat akan dapat dilaksanakan dengan betul dan tepat. Dengan ini akan terbentuklah kekuatan dalaman untuk menyelesaikan masalah-masalah dalam negara. Hanya setelah itu barulah kita akan mampu memberi sumbangan menyelesaikan masalah antarabangsa.

Dan tumpuan saya lebih terarah kepada kepimpinan parti-parti politik pimpinan Melayu-Islam justeru merasakan ia tetap relevan dalam dekad-dekad yang mendatang. Namun dimensi pandangan “ketiga” ini tentulah agak sedikit berbeza daripada apa yang dilihat oleh orang-orang dalam parti sendiri. Anggaplah perbezaan itu satu sumbangan justeru tidak ada siapa pun yang tidak memiliki “blind spot” dalam penilaian dan pemerhatiannya. Jika apa yang terkandung dalam buku ini benar, terimalah. Sebaliknya, jika salah… tolaklah. Jika benar ia boleh “membetulkan” kesalahan kita. Jika salah akan menambah tingkat “kebenaran” kita. Insya-Allah.

Apabila yang dicipta lupa Pencipta

lalu ape yang terjadi?terjadilah dilema, jemu bosan, ragu, marah dan bermacam-macam lagi tekanan menyerang diri terutamanya bila skrip kehidupan tidak sama seperti yang kita harapkan. Apa yang kita kehendaki, tidak dapat. Apa yang di benci pula yang datang. Kejam!Boring!Tension!!!Itulah jeritan batin manusia moden apabila hidup dirasakan serba tidak kena, keliru dan kadang-kadang misteri.

Lalu lahirlah suara-suara tertekan seperti "Batinkumenjerit namun tiada suara." "Tidak ku pinta lahir kedunia." "oh, Tuhan.....kau Cabutlah nyawaku."

namun hakikatnya hidup ini ialah sesuatu yang pasti dan jitu. "skrip" dan "lakonan" kita telah ditentukan. Manusia seharusnnya tidak lagi terkapai-kapai dengan pelbagai soalan tanpa jawapan di atas pentas dunia jika sentiasa mengikut arahan pengarahnya. Tidaklah nasibnya akan menjadi sperti yang digambarkan oleh sebuah syair Arab yang bermaksud:

Aku ni siapa?
Alam ni Apa?
Manusia ini siapa?
Dari mana aku datang?
Hidup ini apa?
Kematian itu apa?
Bagaimana keadaan akan datang?
yang menanti aku sesudah ini?
Adakah lagi "hidup" selepas "hidup" ini?

Inilah "dilema" sama ada disuarakan atau tidak disuarakan oleh manusia zaman moden ini. Walaupun kini teknologi sudah semakin canggih tetapi "tamadun dalaman" manusia masih kuno. Semakin ramai yang tidak tahu jawapan yang tepat terhadap soalan-soalan asasi tentang hidup. Sepertimana kereta yang tiada pemamdu atau kereta yang ada pemandu tetapi tiada arah tuju. begitu hidup bagi orang yang gagal mendapat jawapan yang tepat tentang apakah tujuan asasi dalam hidup.

Remaja & Konflik

Cabaran Remaja

Perubahan-perubahan fizikal, emosi dan social semasa remaja memberi kesan terhadap kesihatan mental.

• Masalah-Masalah Yang Sering Dihadapi Remaja
• Keliru dengan peranan dan tanggungjawab diri
• Sering merasa diri disalahfahamkan dan dipersalahkan
• Merasa diri dilayan secara tidak adil
• Kesunyian
• Sukar memahami emosi
• Susah membuat keputusan

Hubungan Dengan IbuBapa

Remaja yang mempunyai hubungan baik dengan ibubapa mereka sering menjalin perhubungan yang mesra dengan orang lain. Mereka juga kurang mengalami masalah kesihatan mental.

Cara-Cara Menjalin Perhubungan Yang Lebih Rapat Dengan IbuBapa

1. Menghormati dan sedia meneriam tunjuk-ajar dan teguran mereka
2. Membincangkan masalah anda dengan mereka
3. Meluahkan perasaan dan pendapat anda secata terus terang
4. Tunjukkan kasih sayang anda melalui kata-kata ataupun perbuatan
5. Cuba memahami masalah dan beban ibubapa anda
6. Meraikan harijadi mereka
7. Ingatlah bahawa ibubapa menyayangi anda dan mahukan yang terbaik untuk anda

MENANGANI EMOSI

• Keupayaan memahami emosi adalah penting di dalam kehidupan harian
• Apabila Anda Merasa Marah
• Tarik nafas sedalam-dalamnya. Beredar dari suasana tegang (jika perlu)
• Berfikir sebelum bertindak
• Tanya diri sendiri
• Kenapa saya marah ?
• Apalah punca masalah ?
• Apakah yang telah saya lakukan ?

PENYELESAIAN KONFLIK

1. Kenalpasti punca konflik
2. Dengan dulu apa yang hendak disampaikan oleh orang lain
3. Nyatakan apa yang anda kehendaki dan mengapa anda marah
4. Janganlah menyalahkan orang lain
5. Tumpukan perhatian kepada tindakan yang menyebabkan konflik
6. Bertenang semasa menerangkan pendapat anda
7. Bincangkan bersama cara-cara penyelesaian masalah
8. Carilah penyelesaian yang menguntungkan kedua belah pihak
9. Remaja yang Positif
10. Bertimbang rasa
11. Yakin terhadap diri sendiri
12. Sedia menerima nasihat dan teguran
13. Sabar
14. Bertanggungjawab
15. Rajin dan suka menolong
16. Mahir berkomunikasi

Sayings for Teenagers (Heart Hardening).

Prophet of Islam, Muhammad (peace be upon him) has said: "Do not speak excessively without the remembrance of Allah (SWT), since verily excessive speaking without the remembrance of Allah (SWT) makes the heart hard."

Allah revealed to Prophet Musa / Moses (peace be upon him): "(O Musa!) Do not have long desires or hopes for the world since this will make your heart hard and the one whose heart is hard far away from Me!"

Imam Ali (peace be upon him) said: "The eyes do not dry (tears are not stopped) except due to the heart becoming hard. And the heart does not become hard except due to increase in sins."

Imam Ali (peace be upon him) said: "Looking at a stingy person makes the heart hard."

Imam Ali (peace be upon him) said: "An abundance of wealth corrupts the religion and hardens the heart."

Most Beautiful Heart

One day a young man was standing in the middle of the town proclaiming that he had the most beautiful heart in the whole valley.

A large crowd gathered and they all admired his heart for it was perfect.

There was not a mark or a flaw in it.

Yes, they all agreed it truly was the most beautiful heart they had ever seen.

The young man was very proud and boasted more loudly about his beautiful heart.

Suddenly, an old man appeared at the front of the crowd and said, "Why your heart is not nearly as beautiful as mine."

The crowd and the young man looked at the old man's heart. It was beating strongly ... but full of scars. It had places where pieces had been removed and other pieces put in ... but they didn't fit quite right and there were several jagged edges.

In fact, in some places there were deep gouges where whole pieces were missing.

The people starred ... how could he say his heart is more beautiful, they thought?

The young man looked at the old man's heart and saw its state and laughed. "You must be joking," he said. "Compare your heart with mine ... mine is perfect and yours is a mess of scars and tears."

"Yes," said the old man, "Yours is perfect looking ... but I would never trade with you. You see, every scar represents a person to whom I have given my love ..... I tear out a piece of my heart and give it to them ... and often they give me a piece of their heart which fits into the empty place in my heart ... but because the pieces aren't exact, I have some rough edges, which I cherish, because they remind me of the love we shared.

Sometimes I have given pieces of my heart away ... and the other person hasn't returned a piece of his heart to me. These are the empty gouges ... giving love is taking a chance. Although these gouges are painful, they stay open, reminding me of the love I have for these people too ... and I hope someday they may return and fill the space I have waiting. So now do you see what true beauty is?"

The young man stood silently with tears running down his cheeks. He walked up to the old man, reached into his perfect young and beautiful heart, and ripped a piece out. He offered it to the old man with trembling hands.

The old man took his offering, placed it in his heart and then took a piece from his old scarred heart and placed it in the wound in the young man's heart.

It fit .... but not perfectly, as there were some jagged edges.

The young man looked at his heart, not perfect anymore but more beautiful than ever, since love from the old man's heart flowed into his.

They embraced and walked away side by side.

Wealth, Love and Success

You learn to love, not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

A woman came out of her house and saw three old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said "I don't think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat."

"Is the man of the house home?", they asked.

"No", she replied. "He's out."

"Then we cannot come in", they replied.

In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.

"Go tell them I am home and invite them in!"

The woman went out and invited the men in.

"We do not go into a House together," they replied.

"Why is that?" she asked.

One of the old men explained: "His name is Wealth," he said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, "He is Success, and I am Love." Then he added, "Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home?"

The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. "How nice!", he said. "Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!"

His wife disagreed. "My dear, why don't we invite Success?"

Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: "Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!"

"Let us heed our daughter-in-law's advice," said the husband to his wife.

"Go out and invite Love to be our guest."

The woman went out and asked the three old men, Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.

Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other two old men also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?

The old men replied together: If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would've stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!!!

cara mengatasi marah

1. Mengubah Poisisi

Rasullulah SAW bersabda: Apabila salah seorang di antara kamu marah, dan ketika itu dia di dalam keadaan berdiri, maka hendaklah dia duduk. Kerana hal itu akan menghilangkan marahnya. Dan kalau tidak, maka hendaklah dia berbarinng.(Riwayat Muslim)

2. Berwuduk

Rasullullah SAW bersabda: Marah itu datangnya daripada syaitan, dan syaitan itu diciptakan daripada api, sedangkan api itu hanya dipadamkan dengan air. Oleh itu, apabila salah seorang di antara kamu marah, maka hendaklah ia berwuduk. (RIwayat Abi Daud)

3. Berlindung Kepada Allah Daripada Syaitan

Digalakkan supaya kita membaca doa bagi menghilangkan rasa marah iaitu :

اعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم،اللهم اغفرلي ذنبي واذهب غيظ قلبي وأجرني من الشيطان الرجيم

(A’uudzubillahi minasy syaithoonirrojiim, allahummaghfirli dzanbi wadzhab ghoidho qolbii, wa ajirnii minasy syaithoonirrojiim)

Maksudnya :
Aku berlindung kepada Allah dari syaitan yang terkutuk, Yaa Allah ampunilah dosaku dan hilangkanlah kepanasan hatiku dan lepaskanlah aku dari syaitan yang terkutuk.

4. Berfikiran Positif
Anggaplah sesuatu perkara yang terjadi itu adalah ujian bagi kita dan semoga kita dapat melepasi ujian tersebut. Apa yang kita fikirkan memang benar-benar mempengaruhi fikiran kita. Apabila perkara yang difikirkkan kita adalah baik, maka kita cenderung melakukan perkara yang baik juga dan begitulah sebaliknya. Ini sebabnya mengapa Allah SWT dengan murah hati memberikan kita pahala apabila kita berniat untuk melakukan kebaikkan.

5. Maafkan Orang Lain
Maafkan selalu kekurangan orang lain yang mungkin membuat anda marah. Yakinkan diri bahawa setiap manusia pasti memiliki kekurangan masing-masing. Ini kerana tiada insan di duania yang sempurna kerana kesempurnaan itu hanya terletak pada Allah SWT.

6. Meluahkan Perasaan
Kita boleh meluahkan perasaan dengan menceritakan sesuatu yang terjadi pada diri kita kepada seseorang yang kita percayai. Kemungkinan dengan ini, sedikit sebanyak membantu mengurangi beban yang ada di hati. Namum kita harus cari masa dan tempat yang bersesuaian untuk meluahkan perasaan..


oleh itu, terimalah bahawa segala kekurangan yang diberikan oleh Allah pasti mempunyai hikmahnya yang tersendiri. Banyak perkara buruk yang berlaku dalam kehidupan kita sebenarnya membawa seribu erti untuk kita terokai dan kita hayati. Jesteru, sama0-samalah kita beristifar dan berdoa agar sentiasa dijauhi daripada sifat amarah.

Adakah kebahagiaan itu milikku

Jangan cari perbezaan dari segi luaran tapi carilah persamaan secara dalaman, kerana secara dalaman sebenarnya kita mempunyai banyak persamaan.

Kadang………

Kita merasa rindu bilakah kebahagiaan akan datang

Kadang……….

Saat kebahagiaan datang bingung pun menjelang

Kadang…….

Bingung pun pergi berganti rasa takut di hati

Mengapa kebahagiaan cepat berlalu pergi

Bergantinya sebuah perasaan

Menggariskan betapa manusia serba kekurangan

Hingga tak mampu mengecap erti kebahagiaan

Dan kadang…….

Aku pun merasa benci pada diri ini

Di saat duka aku rasa bahagia

Saat bahagia terasa penuh air mata

Entah apa sebenarnya erti bahagia

Mungkin cukup hati yang mampu merasainya

Kepuasan atas Rahmat dan kurniaan-Nya

Boleh membuat tenteram di Jiwa

Mungkinkah itu erti Bahagia yang sesungguhnya????

Malam Yang Memberi Ketenangan

Malam,

Ketika semua suara mulai lelap dalam kesunyian

Hanya terdengar suara hati bergemuruh dalam dada

Aku seperti melihat laut yang tak tersentuh oleh angin, tenang!

Tenang di permukaan, gemuruh suara ikan didalamnya

Aku membayangkan melihat laut yang tenang di malam hari

Dipadukan dengan remang cahaya bulan

Tenang dan indah!

Kini aku sadar

Kenapa malam diciptakan

Kenapa dunia ini tak di isi hanya dengan pagi

Hanya dengan siang saja!

Malam adalah pengaduan, Mengadulah!

Dan jawablah sendiri!

Kerana kau sudah punya jawapannya

Nikmatilah malammu

Jangan hanya kau gunakan untuk tidur

Bangkit dan renungkanlah

Apa yang sudah kau lakukan hari ini?

…..

…….

Sudah?

………

Kau sudah dapat jawabannya?

Terimalah….

Dan gunakan itu untuk esok hari.

mencari diri

Pandang lah pada tarian ombak

Di situ ada cintaku yang hanyut

Dalam belahan badai melanda

Aku lemah dan minta disapa

Lihatlah pada bintang dilangit

Di situ ada rinduku yang menyala

Dalam kelam bulan dan mentari

Aku sepi dan minta dinyala

Lihatlah pada pasir di sana

Di situ ada hatiku yang terdampar

Dalam panasnya mentari dan dinginnya malam

Aku memnjerit dan minta dijulang

Lihatlah pada pulau dan lautan

Di situ ada aku sendiri

Membilang daun dan mencari diri

Aku menanti dan mohon di temani

yang ku rasa

Tak mengenal rasa dan bahasa

Jangan pandang ia dari warna

Papa dan kaya bukan bencana

Susah dan senang lalui cerita

Terdiam kita dalam kesunyian

Merenung ia tak kunjung datang

Menangisi kenangan mati dijalan

Seribu keceriaan tak dilupakan

Jagalah kesucian dari sang hitam

Lebih dan kurang jadi bimbingan

Menutupi fitnah jangan berjalan

Jauhkan beban dari sang kelam

Mengapa kita mengotorinya

padahal suci didepan mata

Mengapa hati mesti dikhianati

Bila sang raja benar mempengaruhi.

Seteguh Kata Hati

disini aku berdiri

menapak tanah yang sama sekali tak aku fahami

hiruk pikuk dan kilauaan lampu nion

tak membuatku gembira

orang-orang mentertawakan aku

menganggap aku seperti angin lalu

atas semua pengorbanan dan usaha ku

tatapan sinis yg menusuk ulu hati

sindiran yang memperlahankan nafas

hampir meruntuhkn pertahanan ku

namun

aku harus tabah

aku tidak boleh lemah

aku akan tetap berjuang didalam hidupku

untuk orang-orang yang aku sayangi

walaupun sungai-sungai kecil menggalir pilu

walaupun langkah tersadung di jalanan

aku akan selalu brusaha untuk mencapai impian ku

aku harus tabah!!

Can't Take That Away

They can say

Anything they want to say

Try to bring me down

But I will not allow anyone to succeed hanging clouds over me

And they can try

Hard to make me feel that I

Don't matter at all

But I refuse to falter in what I believe or lose faith in my dreams

Cause there's

There's a light in me

That shines brightly

Yes, They can try

But they can't take that away from me

From me

They can do

Anything they want to you

If you let them in

But they won't ever win

If you cling to you pride, and just push them aside

See I

I have learned

There's an inner peace I own

Something in my soul that they can not possess

So I won't be afraid and the darkness will fade

Cause there's

There's light in me me

That shines brightly

Yes, They can try

But they can't take that away from me

They can't take this

Precious love I'll always have inside me

Certainly the Lord will guide me where I need to go

They can say

Anything they want to say

Try to bring me down

But I won't face the ground

I will rise steadily sailing out of their reach

Oh, Lord, they do try

Hard to make me feel that I

Don't matter at all

But I refuse to falter

In what I believe or lose faith in my dreams,

Cause there's a light in me

That shines brightly

Air Mata & Senyuman

Takkan kutukar dukacita hatiku demi kebahagiaan khalayak,

Dan, takkan kutumpahkan air mata kesedihan yang mengalir dari tiap bahagian diriku berubah menjadi gelak tawa.

Kuingin diriku tetaplah setitis air mata dan seulas senyuman.

Setitis airmata yang menyucikan hatiku dan memberiku pemahaman rahsia kehidupan dan hal ehwal yang tersembunyi.

Seulas senyum menjadi sebuah tanda kebahagiaanku dalam kewujudan.

Aku merasa lebih baik jika aku mati dalam hasrat dan kerinduan berbanding jika aku hidup menjemukan dan putus asa.

Aku bersedia kelaparan demi cinta dan keindahan yang ada di dasar jiwaku setelah kusaksikan mereka yang dimanjakan amat menyusahkan orang.

Telah kudengar keluhan mereka dalam hasrat kerinduan dan itu lebih manis daripada melodi yang termanis.

Ketika malam tiba bunga menguncupkan kelopak dan tidur, memeluk kerinduannya.

tatkala pagi menghampiri, ia membuka bibirnya demi menyambut ciuman matahari.

Kehidupan sekuntum bunga sama dengan kerinduan dan pengabulan.

Setitis airmata dan seulas senyuman.

Air laut menjadi wap dan naik menjelma menjadi segumpal mega.

Awan terapung di atas pergunungan dan lembah ngarai hingga berjumpa angin sepoi bahasa, jatuh bercucuran ke padang-padang lalu bergabung bersama aliran sungai dan kembali ke laut, rumahnya.Kehidupan awan-gemawan itu adalah sesuatu perpisahan dan pertemuan.

Bagai setitis airmata seulas senyuman.

Dan, kemudian jiwa jadi terpisahkan dari jiwa yang lebih besar, bergerak di dunia zat melintas bagai segumpal mega diatas pergunungan dukacita dan dataran kebahagiaan.

Menuju samudera cinta dan keindahan

Are you in love with someone?

Are you in love with someone?

When you are together with that special someone, you pretend to ignore that person.

But when that special someone is not around, you might look around to find them.

At that moment, you are in love.Although there is someone else who always makes you laugh,your eyes and attention might go only to that special someone.

Then, you are in love.

If you are much more excited for one short e-mail fromthat special someone than other many long e-mails,you are in love.

When you get a couple of free movie tickets, you wouldnot hesitate to think of that special someone.

Then, you are in love.You keep telling yourself, "that special someone is just a friend", but you realize that you can not avoid that person's special attraction.

At that moment, you are in love.

While you are reading this e-mail, if someoneappears in your mind,then u are in love with that person.

Love Is Unsee...

Kenangan

Kenangan mampu menjeruk rasamu

jangan biar ia membawa diri ke penghujung langit gerhana

kenangan itu adalah sejarah yang mengajar

erti kepedihan

juga mengajar diri erti rindu

kenangan juga mengindahkan hidup

dengan wajah pelangi

juga wajah mendung kelabu

semua itu bagai siang dan malam

silih berganti di aturan laluannya

tiada yang kekal

kenangan juga pasti melarut

bersama angin musim baru

terbang ke hujung cakrawala

dan pada saat itu

kenangan terkubur walau sedetik

kini yang tinggal hanya sisa masa

kenangan tak lagi memberi makna

dan hari ini dilalui dengan segengam tabah

semoga sirna baru mengubah segalanya.

::HATI::

Hati merupakan tempat pandangan Allah. Hati diibaratkan sebagai pakaian yang kita gunakan. Kita akan selalu membersihkan pakaian yang kita gunakan lantaran akan dilihat oleh orang lain. Bagaimana pun juga, orang akan menilai kita dari pakaian yang kita gunakan.

Begitu pun dengan hati. Allah akan melihat siapa kita melalui hati. Untuk itu, senantiasalah menjaga hati agar selalu bersih seperti kita menjaga pakaian kita agar selalu indah dipandang orang lain.

Hati orang yang bersih tercermin dari bersihnya jasad. Bagaimana pun juga, di dalam tubuh setiap manusia, terdapat segumpalan daging yang bernama hati. Bersih atau kotornya hati, menentukan sifat manusia yang memilikinya.

hati… jujurlah jika engkau tak sanggup menjadi cemara yang kukuh dipuncak bukit. jadilah saja belukar yang teguh di tepi jurang. Belukar itu senantiasa istiqomah dalam perjuangannya untuk hidup, ia belajar dari kesehariannya untuk mendewasakan batangnnya. batangnya yang senantiasa menyanggahnya untuk tidak jatuh ke dalam jurang.

Journey

I have come a long way

to a distant place far far away

from where i used to live

and from what i used to do

Life is a rosy dream

happiness and joy aplenty

everything that i wanted and

everything is as i had hoped for

Everything is as i had hoped for

everything is as i had longed for

everything is except for the turmoil

that plagues me inside every day

I sleep, i smile, i laugh, i play, i eat and i live

in a constant state of fear

a fear that i did not ask for

and one that i did not longed for

killing me from inside

silently screaming for it to stop

i am devoured by my own inner self

day in and day out

haunting and taunting me

time and time again

they run helter and skelter

in the deep recess of my mind

it’s just a state of mind

i tell myself

hoping to erase these thoughts

of fear that hinges on the edge of my happiness

Trapped inside my own mind

eclipsed by my fear

tears weep without a choice

hoping to vanquish (flood) this struggle within.

Hubungan Akal, Hati dan Nafsu

Akal mencetuskan 'tahu', hati mencetuskan 'yakin' dan 'mahu', nafsu pula menentukan 'mampu'. Ilmu dapat memuaskan akal, iman dapat memuaskan hati dan menjerat nafsu. Muallim(guru) mengajar untuk memberitahu, murabbi(pendidik) mendidik untuk mencetuskan mahu dan memimpin kebuasan nafsu. Hati adalah raja anggota badan. Akal adalah bendahara kepada hati. Nafsu pula pengacau yang boleh memburukkan akal dan hati. Ringkasnya, hati menentukan tindakan, akal memandu hati untuk bertindak membuat kerja dengan 'betul-betul'. Nafsu pula perosak kepada 'perancangan' hati dan akal! Disamping faktor dalaman tersebut, faktor luaran juga mempengaruhi 'penghijrahan' seseorang, untuk keluar daripada zon selesa kepada zon derita, buat sementara..

Who wrote Source of inspiration

just call me yu...i think it's simple and easy to call. I am a person who is positive about every aspect of life. There are many things i like to do, to see, and to experience. i like to read, i like to write, i like to think, i like to dream, i like to talk, i like to listen. I like to see the sunrise in the morning, i like to see the moonlight at night, i like to feel the music flowing on my face, i like to smell the wind coming from the ocean. I like to look at the clouds in the sky with a blank mind, i like to do thought experiment when i cannot sleep in the middle of the night. I like flowers in spring, rain in summer, leaves in autumn, and snow in winter. I like to sleep early, i like to get up late, i like to be alone. i like country’s peace,i like the beautiful west lake in Hangzhou, i like the flat cornfield in Champaign. I like delicious food and comfortable shoes, I like good books and romantic movies. I like the land and the nature, i like people. And, i like to do something which make me happy.

i always wanted to be a great writer, like A.Samad Said who wrote "Suara Dari Dinding Dewan", or like Usman Awang who wrote "Serunai Malam". They have influenced millions of people through their books. i am just someone who does some teaching, some research, and some writing. But my dream is still alive..